Random Ramblings.
I used to wonder 'how you let go of the things that are killing you when it feels like it would kill you to let go'. Confuse between "if things are meant to be, they will be" with "if you want it, you have to go get it".
We hold on the tightest to the things that aren't meant for us because at some level, we know they aren't really ours. And funny sometimes we always trying to prove the things that are not entirely self-evident.
When we stop thinking, talking and racking through the details again and again, it will really be over? Letting go has little to do with giving somebody permission to leave our lives, or declare that they don't love us anymore. Or walk away for good, and everything to do with accepting that they already have.
I don't know about fate. But I do know the things that are ours don't require us to mentally and emotionally latch onto them to remain. Like things are never forced, never created out of ultimatum, never leave us reeling & questioning the for months or years at a time.
You cannot prove how much you love by how much you're pained over loss/convince other people you're doing the right thing. It's never the love that hurts you. It's the attachment to the 'idea' of what it's supposed to be and how long it's supposed to be it for.
Nothing here lasts and the idea that it does is an illusion - we eventually lose everything. Every last thing we have and are and down. So the point isn't what we lose, but we had in the first place.
Some love teaches us what it has to teach us in a month. Some a lifetime. Neither is more important than the other. The things that are meant for us are trying, joyous and beautiful and excruciating. They're the things we don't think.
The things we don't have to hold on tightly to make happen. [End]
We hold on the tightest to the things that aren't meant for us because at some level, we know they aren't really ours. And funny sometimes we always trying to prove the things that are not entirely self-evident.
When we stop thinking, talking and racking through the details again and again, it will really be over? Letting go has little to do with giving somebody permission to leave our lives, or declare that they don't love us anymore. Or walk away for good, and everything to do with accepting that they already have.
I don't know about fate. But I do know the things that are ours don't require us to mentally and emotionally latch onto them to remain. Like things are never forced, never created out of ultimatum, never leave us reeling & questioning the for months or years at a time.
You cannot prove how much you love by how much you're pained over loss/convince other people you're doing the right thing. It's never the love that hurts you. It's the attachment to the 'idea' of what it's supposed to be and how long it's supposed to be it for.
Nothing here lasts and the idea that it does is an illusion - we eventually lose everything. Every last thing we have and are and down. So the point isn't what we lose, but we had in the first place.
Some love teaches us what it has to teach us in a month. Some a lifetime. Neither is more important than the other. The things that are meant for us are trying, joyous and beautiful and excruciating. They're the things we don't think.
The things we don't have to hold on tightly to make happen. [End]
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